Some people are mean. To get what they want, they use threats. To stay ahead of the game, they use more threats. When the threats stop working, they use abuse as their strategy. And all day long they think of ways to keep themselves in a position of dominance over the people who they believe are less important. I’m not saying that staying sharp and developing plans to keep ahead of the game is wrong. I’m saying that people who develop plans to keep someone hurt and weak and believing that they aren’t worth much for their own gain is wrong.
Christians need to be bold. Any relationship that is hurtful needs to end. Draw the line somewhere. Who wants to suffer for evil? Life is going to cause pain no matter what, so suffer for the right reasons. Suffer for good. When we take the pain that comes from doing good, doing what Christ wants us to do, the pain can be overpowered by faith. Those abusive relationships can be destroyed by faith. We must have faith that ending the relationship is going to free us from the oppression of those who think it is okay to hurt us and will put us into the beginning of what Christ has for us. “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed” (Psalm 9:9). Yes, the road to freedom will be difficult, but at least the end goal is good, at least our pain will be because we are reaching for something good instead of staying content with angry beatings, ridicule and life-sucking dominance.
Have faith that the future isn’t going to be grim, because we are relying on the guidance of an absolutely pure-hearted God. No matter how empty things look around us, call on the Lord and know–don’t feel, know–that the Lord will lead us to something better. “He upholds the cause of the oppressed and gives food to the hungry. The Lord sets prisoners free” (Psalm 146:7).
Always look for an opportunity to leave the self-empowering (selfish), unchanging people who think they are God and have the right to manipulate, backstab and abuse anybody they please. And if the bad relationship is life threatening, then be diligent and pray to Christ as much as possible. But always look for an out. Always think about freedom through Christ. He will provide a way for us to find freedom. Either in escape or death, he will pull us toward something beautiful. And as he pulls us, we can’t let the slightest or the biggest things push us away from his plan. Stay tough in Christ everyday until all the years pass. Go ahead and stand-up through it all. The Lord will defend us.
We, Christians, have the power of God living in us, and the sooner we realize that, the better our relationships are going to get. “For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. So do not be ashamed to testify about our Lord, or ashamed of me his prisoner. But join with me in suffering for the gospel, by the power of God, who has saved us and called us to a holy life…” (2 Timothy 1:6-9).